From Matt Cobb:I wanted to let FBC Norco know what’s going on here in Oklahoma as we continue to recover from the tornado this last Monday. Just so you know, Heather & I are fine & our home has no damage. The tornado missed our home by approximately a 1/2 mile.We have been receiving…
Wow. Okay, so that really happened! We are the proud parents (!) to a beautiful baby girl named Elsie Jane.
People have been asking for the story, but there isn’t a ton to tell. I’ll give it a try though. :) So, about 3 weeks ago we were informed that our portfolio was shown to an expectant mother (along with a handful of other prospective adoptive couples). They told us a little about her and that she was due Feb 6th. We were happy to be being shown and excited that if we were chosen the baby would be here so quickly but we knew that we weren’t her only choice. We spent the next few weeks constantly praying for her, the baby, and our hearts to be at peace with whatever she chose. The agency said that if we don’t hear back from them about it, then we weren’t chosen. After a few weeks of jumping every time my phone rang I started to wonder if it wasn’t our time yet. I’m grateful that even though I started to lose hope that we would get chosen by her I never became despondent or depressed. I knew God would bring our family together in His perfect timing and was resting in that.
So, on Monday Mike had the day off and we decided that we should maybe do a little shopping for basics that we would need whether our baby came now or in a year. Before heading to Babies R Us we stopped at Juice It Up for lunch and in the parking lot got a call from the social worker saying that we were chosen, our baby girl had been born on Saturday, and we were able to pick her up the next day! The next 24 hours were spent buying all the newborn essentials, calling family and friends, and trying to set up the house. On Monday night we still went to our separate men and women’s bible studies where we were able to share with and rejoice over amazing news of God’s grace with people who have been on this journey with us.
On Tuesday morning I went to the dr to get antibiotics for a respiratory infection I had. He told me to get lots of rest and not be around people because I was super contagious. I told him we were bringing home a newborn that night. He looked at me like a crazy person and told me to buy some masks and wash my hands a lot! Mike went into work for a few hours to set up his 2 weeks leave. Then we met up at home and headed to the agency to pick her up. We got to their office and met her. I think the staff was hoping for a more enthusiastic response from us but it was pretty overwhelming and surreal! I think my response was “holy crap”. Classy. We took turns holding her, Mike fed her and walked around the office while I went through the paperwork. 2 hours later and we were strapped into the car seat heading home. All the responsibility for this tiny human resting on our shoulders. Since then we’ve been in a pleasant routine of feeding, diapering, sleeping, and snuggling. We’ve gone to the airport, Target, the mall, and the pediatrician. We had our home bible study on Wednesday and a bunch of visitors throughout the week. She’s had a pretty busy life so far!
My heart is so full right now. I love staring into her little face as she falls asleep with a full milky tummy. I love seeing Mike become this super gentle, strong, loving, confident, and tender father. But most of all I am in awe that the glorious and good Creator of the universe would love us and bless us with so so much more than we could ever dream of or deserve.
We’ve been so so busy! Even though it was all good things, I am so ready for the calm that a new year brings. Thankfully, we were able to pull together and finish our portfolio and get the required 10 copies made. Bethany also posted our online profile: http://waitingfamilies.bethany.org/home/california/mike-and-becca
We finished our last 3 home study meetings and were able to leave for vacation certified and able to be shown to expectant mothers! It was such a relief to just enjoy Christmastime with family and not worry about getting anything done. We immersed ourselves in eating, games, snow, and Downton Abbey. It was refreshing and exactly what I needed.
Now we’re home and trying to get back into a routine. I am not a resolution person but this new phase in the adoption process happens to come right as the new years starts and that’s caused me to think about the last few years. It’s been so so difficult. Infertility has made me bitter and hard-hearted. I could see it happening but couldn’t really figure out how to stop it. I’m surprised I still have friends at this point! So, my hope this year is to rediscover joy. To embrace the fact that God has plans for us that weren’t what we originally had in mind but to take comfort in His goodness, love and knowledge of what we need. To look forward to the adventure of an unknown process and all the ways He will use us to highlight the beauty of the Gospel and adoption.
I don’t imagine this time of waiting will be easy. Our social worker gave us a estimation of 2 years before we’re parents. She said that she tells most families 3 years and we’re just open to more than most. My goal is to treat it like a very long pregnancy! We’ll slowly get a nursery ready and read books and take some required parenting classes. We’ll live life and enjoy date nights, vacations and going out to dinner while it’s just the two of us and I’ll try to be content and live in the moment, thanking God for everything we’ve been given…which is much much more than we deserve.
I was super crazy nervous! I imagined all these weird interview type questions and kept asking Mike if we should plan some of our possible answers. He was not a fan. Thankfully, once we got there and started talking with the social worker I calmed down a lot. The meeting was about 1.5 hours and we talked about how we met, our early relationship, infertility and how we dealt with and responded to it, our fears, questions, concerns about adoption and birth parents. Nothing too crazy or intimidating. We also scheduled our next 3 meetings over the next month and I was really happy to find out that we’ll be able to complete our home study and be certified to adopt before we leave for Christmas vacation! It’s a Christmas miracle! :) Our 2nd meeting is on the 27th and will be at our house. We’ll have individual interviews about 1.5 hours each where we’re supposed to talk about our families and childhood. Cringing? haha Our 3rd meeting is where we discuss our service plan and that determines which expectant parents we would be shown to and approx how long we should expect to wait to be chosen. Our last meeting is the home inspection. We have a few weeks to baby proof the house and make sure everything is clean and ready. At that point we’ll hopefully get approved and certified and can officially start the more exciting waiting!
I was going through photos from today and grinning like an idiot! So many fun pictures of our friends and family hanging out and shopping. (I’ll post all of those on my facebook) While planning the craft fair I was unsure that we would even make a dent in our giant fundraising goal but time and time again my cynical attitude is smashed to bits. I am overwhelmed by how generous everyone was. We seriously couldn’t have done it without so many people donating amazing crafts and raffle prizes, helping us set up and of course shopping! Our fundraising total for the night was $3,078!! Praise the Lord!